Anger Problems

leo-350690_1280-cropDo you find yourself exploding in anger in the worst possible circumstances? Do you feel like you are not in control of yourself at that moment? Do you do and say things you later regret? Do you feel constantly irritated by everything around, even by minor inconveniences? Or does it seem that your anger suddenly springs up out of nowhere? Do other people tell you you look or sound angry all the time?

Anger is a powerful emotion. It can simmer within for a long time, as we try to push it down and keep it in, but sooner or later it comes out – whether in one big explosion, or flowing out steadily for a longer time, like a hot lava, or coming out in small portions as passive-aggressive comments or minor outbursts, anger can make you feel out of control, overwhelmed and alone.

But anger can also feel good in a way. It can feel righteous and just. And in some circumstances it is indeed so – anger motivates us to right the wrongs, to protect ourselves and others when treated unfairly. But it can also be addictive. If you find yourself getting constantly angry at all the problems of the world, all the wrongs and injustices, you may also find that after the burst of anger you feel drained, helpless, burnt out, even depressed.

In both cases I can help you get a grip on your anger by gaining better understanding of what it is and what function it serves. We are often taught as children that anger is “wrong”, that we shouldn’t be angry, but rarely are we told what to do if we start to feel angry. So most of us pushes anger down, trying not to feel it. Sometimes we succeed, only to be surprised by anger welling up beyond all limits in a situation which should merely irritate us. But, as no emotion ever comes from nowhere, so it is likely that your anger has a legitimate reason. By finding this reason we can take away a lot of your anger’s power and direct it to where it belongs, and where it can be used constructively.

If you find yourself drained by the righteous outrage, I can help you find ways of standing up to the world’s injustices which will be emotionally and spiritually nourishing, instead of draining. Nourished and strong you can do more good in the world.

If you would like to receive counseling to help you cope with your anger, get in touch with me to ask any questions you might have or to arrange the first meeting.